Home for aged

Homes for the Aged – A Social Need, Not a Stigma

From Joint Families to Nuclear Families

For centuries, India’s joint family system was the backbone of its society. The reason was simple: our economy was agriculture-based. From ploughing the fields to tending cattle, every task required manpower. The larger the family, the lighter the individual’s workload. Beyond economics, a cultural value grew — children must care for their parents and elders. Folklore, stories, and moral lessons all reinforced this duty.

But with the Industrial Revolution, the picture changed. Families moved to cities for jobs. The earning responsibility shifted from the whole family to the individual. The joint family gradually faded.

Now, in today’s world of electronic gadgets, social media, and dual-income households, the concept of the joint family has become almost irrelevant. Husband and wife themselves earn differently, live under different pressures, and share less interdependence with extended family.

The Rise of Old Age Homes

In this background, we see the rise of a new “industry” — homes for the aged.

In Western countries, the state had long foreseen this problem. Social security, old-age pensions, and retirement homes were built into the system. But in India, where respect for elders was once taken for granted, the idea of children sending their parents to such homes feels like a betrayal. Elders see it as abandonment. Children, on the other hand, often see it as a practical solution.

The emotional conflict does not solve anything. Instead, it makes the elders feel cheated, while silently giving the younger generation a convenient escape. What we need is an honest acceptance of the social changes that have brought us here.

The Generation Gap

Every generation has had differences. Our parents disagreed with us in music, clothes, and ideas — but still understood us. With today’s third generation, the gap is far wider. Grandparents often find it impossible to relate to their grandchildren’s approach to life, let alone their gadgets, tastes, or even pets.

Living together in such circumstances can easily lead to tension, quarrels, and unhappiness. In many cases, it may be healthier for elders to live independently or in a community with their peers, rather than under the constant stress of clashing with younger family members.

If health or age does not permit independent living, then homes for the aged are indeed a blessing. Better to part peacefully than to live together in daily conflict.

The Real Problem – Cost of Care

But there is a darker side. The “old age home” sector in India is becoming commercialized. In cities like Chennai and Coimbatore, decent facilities with privacy and medical support can cost ₹45,000 or more per month. And these charges rise every year.

For most residents, whose only income is a fixed pension or interest from deposits, such expenses are unsustainable. Worse, some institutions have no hesitation in asking residents to leave if they cannot pay. That is not care — it is business.

What Governments Can Do

Instead of offering endless freebies to the public for short-term votes, governments should focus on this pressing need. They need not give direct cash to old age homes, where corruption could creep in. Instead, they can provide targeted, practical support:

Subsidized medicines and essential food grains like rice

Reduced electricity tariffs for registered old age homes

Reserved emergency hospital beds for senior citizens in such institutions

Strict monitoring to prevent misuse

Such measures will ease the financial burden on elders, while ensuring they are treated with dignity.

Conclusion

The joint family system is gone, and it will not return. The world has changed, and so must we. Homes for the aged should not be seen as shameful, but as a practical and sometimes necessary choice. What matters is ensuring that our elders live their final years with comfort, dignity, and security.

And for that, both society and the state have a responsibility.